Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is the body’s way of reacting to a damaging event that could have been intentionally or unintentionally caused by someone or something. Some examples of intentional events are war, abuse of any kind, assault, kidnapping, and violence. Examples of unintentional events are a car crash, a natural disaster or manmade disaster, burns and a shipwreck. Either way, as humans we will react to an extreme event. The result is PSTD. It makes sense that the body and mind WOULD react to these types of traumas. It also makes sense that someone with PTSD would not welcome reliving events or having them reoccur over and over.
When you stay in an abusive relationship, for example, you are constantly reliving the traumatic events. With regard to abuse, you may live with the fear and anxiety, you may be depressed, you may be in complete denial but it is very important that no matter what kind of event brought you to this place, the best way out is to acknowledge it and deal with what your body and mind are telling you. You have been damaged and sometimes the wounds can be deep, life altering and affect you in ways that you can’t connect to the bad event.
Go to a bookstore and sit with a book on PTSD which can be found in the self help section. Read about what causes it, what the symptoms are and what to do if you think you may have PTSD. Next, take a leap of faith and seek out someone to talk to about it. Once you have done this there is no going back! The relief that you will feel as you start to unload your baggage so to speak will propel you to a new place of self awareness, self confidence and a feeling of starting anew. You will start a healing process and someone will be there to guide you. Do not be afraid to say that maybe you need to find a different person to help you if it feels like who you have approached may not be the best for your cause.
You are in this to take care of you. I am living proof that after a lifetime of multiple abusive relationships, being widowed young, low self worth and zero confidence you can start over and life looks great. I now feel like I wouldn’t change my past because it has made me into someone who can withstand a great deal AND deal with my feelings and experiences as they come. I have read tons of PTSD books and am happy to acknowledge that I was diagnosed with it and that is not something that was an embarrassing or traumatic event for me. My body and mind reacted to what someone or something did to it and now I have to help myself. Maybe you or someone you know would benefit from taking a walk on the same path!