Does the “Jealous” factor play an important roles in our day to day life?

Jealousy is a type of fear. But is this fear, help to make healthy relationship to our family. Some times woman getting jealous, when her guys talk with his coworker. Sometimes man gets jealous when woman give more time to them children. Why God makes this feeling? What is the good in this feeling? Let talk on this factor, and find the answer.

Let start with some basic questions:

What do you means jealous?

- The definition say jealous is the feeling resentment because of another's success, advantage, etc.

But, it’s just about another’s success and advantages?

Why women have more jealous factor than the men?

Women are getting jealous from others jewelry, other looks etc. But my question is who gets benefits out of the jealous factor? Most of the brands owner understand the factor and publish advertisement. Ultimately they become rich out of jealous factor.

Sometimes women are jealous when her guys talk with his coworker who looking absolutely gorgeous and very giggly. But is this jealous feeling helps them to establish healthy relationship. I don’t think, because of women jealous factor, she loose her husband love. Women know that facts very well, but why they can’t control their jealousy.

Friends, don’t think jealousy gives you negative result in our life, its just matter of how you work around. My one of the friend, “John”, who is always jealous from branded cars owners. He is not rich person, he has only bike. So obviously he want the car, and that’s reason why he feels jealous when he see BMW or Honda City cross his bike, But this guy take this feeling positively. He utilities his feeling into constructive way, and in present he is the owner of the Honda City.

So it’s your choice, how you take the situation.

Friends, I am really research on “Jealous”. May be you can help me.

I have lots of question regarding “Jealousy”. I listed some of them.

1. Jealousy is differs based on gender?

2. Is there any biological relationship with this feeling?

3. How you overcome this feeling?

By: hiteshrup
Published: 07/19/08

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Jealousy

@ 3:33 pm 07/20/08 by Osiris

I dont think women are more likely to be jealous than men, probably just jealous about different things. Whereas women tend to jealously protect their relationships, men tend to be more jealous about things like cars and positions of power in work. I also know men who are extremely jealous when their wives/girl friends talk to other men and I know women who are jealous of someone who is promoted ahead of them.
Jealousy when it pertains to relationships has something to do with the idea of ownership. If you are married to a person, that person remains an individual, and has the right to talk to other people and have fun. It is only when you are insecure about your own attractiveness to your partner that you have a need to be jealous.
Basically most jealousy is based on insecurity about oneself. It is also described in the Bible as a deadly sin, and I think that is probably a good description, since jealousy can destroy otherwise good relationships and also leads people to become petty in the workplace when someone else got the promotion they wanted.
Good luck with the research.

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Is bible describing jealousy as sin?

@ 1:33 am 07/24/08 by hiteshrup

You mean jealousy is sin? So as per bible, your feelings, your emotions are sin? But my question is, God make us, God put emotions in humans, and then how it would be sin?

@ 6:39 pm 07/20/08 by Xiaoyu Yang

Jealousy can be a kind of motivation

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@ 1:36 am 07/24/08 by hiteshrup

First of all, thanks to read my article, and yes my dear, you are right. Jealousy play motivational role in our life. Do you have any incident where it play motivational role in your life?

@ 10:36 pm 07/20/08 by MagicAkemi

Jealousy can be both a positive and a negetive emotion. It can be a motivation to gain you insite into a situation or perform better at something. It can also destroy a relationship between two people. Personally, I don't think that it should be measured in scientific terms, for you never know what may happen next. Alas, thus is human emotion.

-Magic A

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@ 2:19 am 07/21/08 by Ardi J.

I can't agree more with those comments in here. Jealosy help you to perform better, but it has its dark sides as well!

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Jealosy in dark side.

@ 1:39 am 07/24/08 by hiteshrup

Hi, Ardi

Thanks to post comment in my article,

Can you elaborate the dark sides? It's better to understand me as well as our readers.

@ 7:34 pm 07/21/08 by littlepinoy

I think gender is not a factor of how jealous a person is. what matters is how one deals with his/her jealousy. maybe women are prone to be called as "more jealous" because they are vocal or open to what or how they feel. Men, on the other hand, just keep their feelings to themselves. But it doesn't mean that men are less jealous.

i don't know anything about jealousy and its biological relationship to the human species. But I'm sure it's in the psychological aspect, perceptions, personality and the like.

I admit I'm a jealous person myself. But I'm not destructive about it. i admit I get jealous, but it doesn't mean that I want to get even. I just keep it to myself until the feeling diminished, trying to rationalize what happened and how it happened. Sometimes, when necessary, i talk to the person concerned if it deals with jealousy in a relationship. it helps to open up. all you need is a listening ear and an understanding open mind.

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@ 1:43 am 07/24/08 by hiteshrup

Thanks littlepinoy to post your comment in this article,

And I think you are the right path to overcome this feeling. I am good to know that you take this emotional in positive way. It really helps you.

From your comment, I found that you are facing this emotion much times, so can you give some examples, some incidents where you come across this emotion, and how to overcome them.

@ 5:22 am 07/25/08 by Elma Sandoval

Pricks of jealousy (and most of us experience this at one point) should not be harbored; instead it should be used constructively to motivate a person to do better, strive harder and become a more productive human being.

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@ 9:06 am 08/02/08 by hiteshrup

First of all, Elma, Thanks to post comment on this disucssion,

Let me ask you question, How many times you take it constructive way? and how many times you feel ashamed for this feeling?

Had you ever face problem from this feeling?

I asked question because, I am doing research on this topic. So don't take it personally

Thanks again.

Jealousy

@ 12:00 pm 08/01/08 by Ashlee Simmons

Interesting topic! I just covered jealous women in my blog. I think that this emotion stems from deep insecurities, although everyone has probably felt jealous at one time or another. The problem is when jealousy runs you and ruins your relationships. At that point, you have to ask yourself what are your deeper feelings are - jealousy is a smokescreen for other things. Truth is, when you are happy and feel good about yourself, you want everyone else to be happy and get what they want, too. Isn't it best that we all have wonderful things in our lives? Of course!! If you are not experiencing the life that you desire, get out in the world and make that happen. Good article, great topic!

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@ 9:10 am 08/02/08 by hiteshrup

Hi, Ashlee

I really like your one sentence "If you are not experiencing the life that you desire, get out in the world and make that happen." -- This is only way to come out from this feeling. You have to be lion in this world, otherwise you are coward and you can't do anything else than feel jealous.

Thanks for posting your valuable input.

@ 12:07 pm 08/23/08 by Karma

I'm not to sure woman are more jealous then man, I think both sexes show it in different ways (or try to hide it in different ways) when they are jealous.
Perhaps they are also jealous of different things. Judging from your article one might say woman are more easily jealous of social interaction of their lover with the other sexe and man are more jealous of other man having a nice sportcar; but even then, it's a stereotype that won't match just any man or woman.

Why do we have feelings of jealousy? I think there is a difference between jealousy and envy. Jealousy is in my opinion a healthy feeling that means you would love to have the same thing someone else has got, envy is when you want what someone else has got but also dislike that this person has it.

For example, if I'm jealous of my friend who has a nice dress I do am happy for her that she has it; but I want it aswell. When you envy someone, you want to have the dress for yourself and don't want others to have it. This is far worse in my opinion.

Thanks for an interesting post!

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Unfair

@ 4:31 pm 08/23/08 by sgeour

Although I am a man, and I want to think i never get jealous, this article is slighly unfair in focusing on feminin jealousy and not men. We DO get jealous, and yes I agree with karma, we show it in different ways.
this is however, an iteresting article!

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@ 8:42 pm 08/23/08 by Nax05

Wow..never went this deep into thought with jealousy..

I can imagine, it has an impact on certain people, in certain situations. I, myself, don't experience it too often.

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@ 2:54 am 08/27/08 by Xiaoyu Yang

Jealousy influences everyone, more or less. It's our idea of ego rooted deeply in our charactor.

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Learned Behavior

@ 4:29 am 08/29/08 by CMathias

I believe that jealousy is a learned behavior. It may stem from watching your parents or guardians behave in this matter over certain situations or it may grow from being decieved in one or more relationships. It is also known to grow in people that may decieve others because they feel if they are like this then the rest of the world must be doing something to decieve them, also. I realy do not think it is born from genetics but you never can say never.

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